Archive for February, 2009

Raising Boys

Caleb’s hitting the big milestone of 5 years old got me thinking about parenting.

Family Photo
My brothers and I really know how to make a memorable Christmas photo

My parents raised 3 boys. Not only that, but the Filipino/Asian dynamic meant that they also co-raised 6 other boys. Two of my aunts and uncle’s families were also made up of 3 boys, all around the same age. And we also at each other’s houses raising boy chaos. We went through some old home videos once and found some footage of an old road trip my parents took us on when I was about 9. This meant Lem and Oliver were around 5 and 4, respectively. One scene had the 3 of us jumping up and down on a hotel bed, throwing sheets and pillows around, striking super-hero poses, and causing a huge ruckus. It then panned over to the other queen bed, where my parents were laying under the blankets, watching TV, exhausted from a day of walking and sight-seeing–totally impervious to the complete devastation going on around them.

As we got older, the playing changed somewhat, but the spirit of carnage remained:
Dad is tied up
The Malabuyo men, Davao City, Philippines, circa 1999

But it all paid off – now that we are all grown and have been successfully launched into adulthood, my parents can bask in the delight of 3 grown sons who love and respect them:
Dad's graduation
Us embarrassing our parents at dad’s graduation from seminary

I now have 2 boys of my own, and while I remember mentioning when Caleb was a baby that I found a new appreciation of my parents now that I had a son, now that I have two sons I am ready to stand up and give my parents an solid ovation.

There’s really no way to fully appreciate what your parents do for you until you become one yourself. The sleepless nights, endless diapers, constant wrangling, stress of keeping them alive – they are all just words on a blog post until you have experienced (or…are experiencing) it first-hand. Caleb and Tyler are both under the age of 6 and I can already tell that the fun is just beginning. Tyler isn’t old enough to give Caleb a fight, but when he is, it’ll be fun to watch. While I can destroy Caleb in a wrestling match, he can certainly outlast me – the kid can wrestle for days after I certainly would drop dead from exhaustion.

So here’s to you, mom and dad. You survived raising 3 boys and were rewarded with our sister, Rachel, 10 years later. Wow, just think if you had another boy…

Half a Decade of Caleb

Even with Tyler’s constant crying early this morning, Caleb woke up with a smile, knowing he was now 5 years old and that he’s one day closer to his “Indiana Caleb” birthday party. I now know what my own parents meant when, every year, on my own birthday, they would say “I’m sooooo old!” because wow, it doesn’t seem like that long ago that he was born!

Aww, cute baby
Caleb’s BIRTHday, 5 years ago today

Happy Birthday, little guy–I mean, “awesome guy.” You are truly a joy in your mom and I’s and Tyler’s life. I only wish I had the endless amount of energy to keep up with you!

Caleb, the 5 year old
Cupcakes on his 5th Birthday! (Caleb’s the one on the left)

Sharks and Chicken

Lem let me tag along to help him cover the San Jose Sharks/Tyson Food/Second Harvest Food Bank event. These guys teamed up to donate thousands of pounds of chicken to various local charities. I got there kind of late, when everything was pretty much wrapped up, but Lem did get my a bunch of autographs of the players that were there. Woohoo!

woo hoo!
Lem failed to get JR, Lemieux, and some others, but hey, I’m eternally grateful!

The last time I got to meet some Sharks, back in 2005.

Digital Photography and Me

Me trying to look pro
Me trying to look pro.

Listen up kids, long ago, in photography, before this confounded thing we call “digital,” there was this little medium we called film. It was delicate, time-consuming, expensive, had a set ISO, and we could only shoot 12, 24, or the massive 36 shots on one roll. We bought these rolls in packs at Costco to save money, and stored what we didn’t use in the fridge to keep them fresh. Just to make prints we camped out in darkrooms and used huge enlarger machines and dodged and burned with our hands. We ruined our pictures (not to mention our clothes) when we weren’t careful with emulsion and gosh-darned it, we liked it that way! (more…)

The Original Super Soaker 50!

I have fond memories of these bad boys. I didn’t have much money as a kid, so I only had the super soaker 30 and was so jealous when my little brother got the 100 for his birthday.

Giving it Another Go

Fellow web developer, Josh Dura–who also just started blogging again–said it best: “welcome back to me.” My last real post was from Septemeber 2007, which was far, far too long ago. But then again, I started blogging on timches.com in 2002 before the term “blog” had even been coined, so maybe I needed a break. I can’t really pin down the reason I stopped, but I quit about the same time a lot of friends and family quit blogging as well. I think I can blame Facebook and Twitter for that! (Mac, you gotta start blogging again – you had a good thing going there!)

It’s a shame, since I enjoy writing. I enjoy looking back at my old posts even more, to see what I was thinking and talking about at the time. So here’s my new plan. I’m going to post whatever I want…however often I want. In the past I think I tried to hard to perfect my posts and make them from “web designer professional guy.” I see that I have several drafts of posts that never went up because I wanted to get them just right before posting them. As I approach my 30th birthday this year, I guess I am waxing nostalgic and feel like I should get my thoughts down somehow.

30th birthday this year!! Sigh…kids these days don’t even know what designing websites with tables even means.

Hm, I’ll have to redo my about page and stick my Twitter updates on this site as well.

So here’s to hoping. I spend far too much time online in front of a computer not to post here once in a while!